When you’re made redundant, you think a lot about next steps. It’s a stumble; you worry you’ll fall flat. But what people often fail to acknowledge is that even if your next steps ultimately lead you to a better place, it’s still a journey you were forced to make.
Even if you look back in the future and are glad you moved on, you can feel aggrieved you had to make the trek.
Someone waxing lyrical about imagined sunlit uplands as you’re mid-stumble isn’t terribly helpful. Acknowledge the hurt.
@chrisphin I was laid off in the early months of the pandemic. It’s been nearly 3 years and I still feel humiliated, embarrassed, and ashamed. It doesn’t help that spent months doing over 30 interviews, and then ended up in a startup that failed, followed by another 30 interviews. My current job has been a lot better, but I still feel hurt about the redundancy.
@chrisphin unfortunately you’d never be short of guests!
I tried to take the summer off; I got my notice at the start of May and said I wasn’t going to interview until September, but The Fear kicked in and I started looking within weeks.
I did get some good times at home with the family though. Kids were home schooling and on summer holidays for quite a bit. They still wish we could go back to that time!
And you’re so right. Those good times were augmented with Valium and antidepressants.
@mo See, now I want to make a podcast about redundancy so we can tell these stories. 😏
Yes, it’s quite the cocktail of emotions. I gave myself two week off to process and grieve. lol
(Mine was August, but 300 more colleagues announced to be losing their jobs at that company today.)
Glad to hear it’s getting better, but of course like my original post says: that doesn’t negate the hurt.